“that nagging and bitching in Japanese is much softer on the ear than it is in English”..well Peter,whilst i agree with the majority of your sentiments,either you or I, must be suffering from a hearing impairment,because Arden, being the proto-typical Kakaa Denka Gunma Banshee, can out-nag,out-bitch,out-shriek,out-dish-smash and any other antic, guaranteed to scare the livin-bejasus out of you.

In a nutshell she can outdo ANY of her western counterparts, Tenfold.

Having said that, I wouldn’t have it any other way – and as the years roll on, I find it to be one of her more enduring traits.

Yours Humbly

remora.

[...] fever debunked by speed dating experiment. [...]

This survey reflects the differences between men and women when they consider their life partners. Men mainly care about physical attributes and women are more concerned with points that are affected by culture and social issues. As the person who bears and is the primary caregiver for children in most cultures, women have to marry someone who will agree with how the children are raised and have similar values in terms of how money, religion, and education are handled. Men, who generally tend to be less invested in the day-to-day issues of their home life, don’t tend to get too invested in values or cultural background (yes, across all cultures, men care far less than women but not all men care less than all women – I’m talking general tendencies here, not specific couples).

Additionally, roles for men tend to be narrower and more clearly defined and are more flexible for women in developed countries. There’s a higher chance a woman will find a man who is tolerant of the choices she makes if she stays within her native cultural sphere of acquaintances. Since most men work and are the main breadwinners in all cultures, any woman they marry will condone their choices. The same cannot be said for women who stay at home in the U.S. or women who work in Japan (plenty of Japanese men still prefer stay at home wives, especially if they have children).

Very well put, MarkD.

I always have bristled a bit at suggestions that white males who marry east Asians are living out some kind of fetish.

Also, I am amused when someone from the States (usually a female) will make some remark about how Japanese women always defer to their husbands, unlike their American sisters who are more assertive.

I say to my Japanese wife “i love you daring”. She flips me off and returns with “i kill you bitch!!” In the sweetest possible way of course. Very not “deferring”.

so far i’ve learnt that (in general) Japanese Men are Sissies (paul) and Japanese Women are Bitches – a pretty compact summary i’d say.

rem.

I agree with MarkD. I really hate the term yellow fever and its relatives such as asian fetish and so forth. Not only does it insult non asian men dating/marrying asian women, it also denigrates the asian woman as if they are some strange alien species. A fetish refers to an object, not a person.

What indeed is so wrong for any person to have a preference or liking for another race? As long as that preference does not come at the expense or put down of other races, who cares who dates or marries who. It’s no different than a preference for hair color, eye color, build, etc. etc.

NAVPERSCOM has statistics on this (might not be public info though, kinda doubt it now that I think about it). Also every couple years Navy Times does a juicy little article on this and the implications of foreign marriage.

“To use a movie quote, ‘Most of the bitches I know are men.’”

THANK YOU, gunrunner!

[...] The yellow fever myth [...]

Steven, wtf are you talking about? You made a huge leap of logic. Having a preference for Asian women is right in line with liking blondes, or short women, or any other physical characteristic for that matter, and its not Xenophobic at all. You mean to tell me that any form of attraction based upon physical qualities is prejudiced? Well say goodbye to thousands of years of human evolution there buddy, because as far as I can tell, having an attraction solely based upon language and culture is completely idiotic and unrealistic. The issue is not racial, its physical and preferential. Of course there’s gonna be a degree of objectification with ANYTHING material, and the fact of the matter is human beings are part material. Attraction to certain physical qualities is a part of natural evolution, it has nothing to do with intelligence or some damn social terminaology like Xenophobia.

If you’re one of those Asian males jealous of white dudes, theres no need to explain yourself. I already know why you’re jealous and hyper paranoid. Just let it be known that I never care if I see a black, brown, or asian dude with a white girl, but God forbid a white dude should be seen with an asian chick, as if you have some God damned self righteous claim to your own women. Look at the hypocrisies within your own beliefs first.

The white males that prefer Asian females ~ why do they prefer Asian females? Is there some specific reasons for the preference? It’s surprising to me that some white males prefer Asian females, given the fact that bigger breasts and hips are eroticized much more in caucasian culture than in Asian culture.

Interesting psychobabble in here.

The REAL STORY here is the REACTION to white men and asian women liking each other.. not WHY they do!

See the post above… it’s really just A)!